10 core lessons to speak better

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZRMykRmJRg

10 core lessons to speak better

Speak and grow rich

• financial success
• career opportunities
• deeper relationships
• personal fulfilment 

1) Purpose : Speak with clear intent

have you ever come out of a conversation thinking what just happened , you said a bunch of things , they said , and nothing happened = this happens when you speak without clarity.

Success starts with a clear goal , Great communication starts with a clear intention 

is your goal to ____ other person ?

• connect
• persuade
• inspire 

Ask the following before every meeting person, What do you want this person to think , feel and do.

2) Sepak with emotion ( face is remote control )

DESIRE is fuel behind every success.In world of communication desire comes by speaking with emotion.

does not mean you have to dramatic or loud , but speak with conviction, bring feelings to your words.

People will forget what you  said, what you done for them , but never how you make them feel.

most easy of doing it by using facial expressions. Face is remote control to allow you to inject emotions into your voice.

3) Speak with confidence ( = Faith )

FAITH = believe in your mission , your words and your mission.

Most imp thing is not what they say , but how they carry themselves when they say it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ebkSxOSaQ4o

confidence is not something you wait to feel it is something you choose to show.

When you look more confident & sound more confident you feel more confident

do above enough time and your inner confidence will catch up.

Scale Of Confidence

• posture 
• eye contact 
• hand gesture
• pitch variety 
• volume 

4) Repetition

Repetition is what leads to mastery. 

Make a decision now : what do you want to be remembered for ?

5) Story Telling = Other person Imagination

• the concept of imagination and how every achievement begins as an idea developed through imaginative thinking
• when you story tell you activate peoples imagination, you help them visualize and understand 
• dont just tell data , show the meaning behind it.
• = more connections = meaningful relationships = influence 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YzbzIzgvRLY

6) Structure = Organized Planning

• One of the biggest reason why people struggle when put on spot ,  answering tough ques, leading meeting , or when giving critical feedback
• It is not because what to say is because how to say
• Organized Planning i.e. Desire => Action in communication Thoughts => Words

Best speakers think in frameworks that is why under pressure they stay sharp. Else you just ramble in passion.

simple = S.T.A.R 

Most people ramble because they are thinking while they are speaking,  STAR forces you to think before speak.

More Framework(s) 

• PREP : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2zvvQj9ezWg 
• 321 : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5m-C5mwpmxU
• PARA : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dXCAyqM2zWY

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Next lessons 7, 8, 9, 10 bring everything together 

7) Surround yourself with great communicators

suggestion find 3 to 5 people whose communication style you really admire

copy them their words , actions , hand gestures

First you will feel it is FAKE. then tell yourself  ... It is not fake , it is just unfamiliar, so that you feel empowered to continue.

Dont become a wondering generality , becoming a meaningful specific.

8) Practice Practice Practice

• Record videos and review , dont ignore this advice
• 80% people stop here.

(9) Meet him where the person is and bring him to where you want 

This way you make them feel seen, heard, and understood = Magnetic Communication

Meet where they are

• why do you think you rated yourself excellent 
• I am sorry 
• I know how it feels like to be in such a situation
• share more about xxx

If you want a break

• How about we take a 30 sec breather

(10) Unconcious Competence

Have you ever met someone and thought how are they doing it , how they speak without thinking

they do not take pauses , they do not think , their ideas just flows 

that is what is sixth sense

1. Unconscious Incompetence
2. Conscious Incompetence 
3. Conscious Competence
4. Unconscious Competence 

right now , because you are watching this video ... you are in stage 2 , which means you are right where you need to be.

It is like driving. first stage you are aware .., then not aware.